The Introvert’s Guide to Dating In 2021
Being introverted doesn’t mean you should be single forever. Some people are more reserved, shy or anxious than others, but that shouldn’t be an obstacle anymore
I know group activities can feel intimidating for many, but especially for introverts like myself who often prefer working alone. In my experience writing or reading rather than making small talk.
This isn’t to say introverts don’t communicate well or have long-lasting close friends or partners. On the contrary; just are more inclined to withdraw and focus on a specific occupation or hobby.
In this guide I will detail how finding relationships and meeting new people doesn’t have to be a burden. If this sounds like you, then here is what you need to do.
Finding Events that reflect your hobbies and interests:
A new environment can be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be a bar or club if you think it’s too overwhelming. My suggestion is to go to places that entertain your hobbies and interests.
Sometimes this can be a welcome distraction. It’ll be so much easier to initiate a conversation that could branch off nicely into different topics.
Date Night Examples Include:
- See a drive-in Movie
- Visit a museum
- Trivia Night
- Cooking Classes
- See a Comedy Show
Not only reducing social pressures that come with interacting with new people but by making the activity a bonding experience. Most importantly finding like-minded people to find each one another.
Don’t be afraid to makes mistakes:
Be in the moment and don’t beat yourself up for what you think are your shortcomings. Life isn’t about being perceived as perfect; everyone makes mistakes.
You may feel self-conscious about previous experiences. That’s okay; If you’re nervous say so. There is always a lesson to be learned. So, don’t be scared of trial and error. These experiences will only improve your communication skills moving forward.
What types of questions should I ask?
Well, they don’t have to be serious questions to start with; they can be general or even odd.
- What song did you listen to on repeat as a teenager? Do you still dance to it like nobody’s watching?
- What’s invisible, but you wish people could see?
- What is something that everyone feels silly doing?
- What was the funniest way that you have been injured?
Keep an open mind:
This includes dating extroverted people too. There is a lot to be gained even though you likely have different social lives. Opposites attract and that is no different when it comes to introvert/extrovert relationships.
The two personality types can balance each other out. However, to make any relationship work both must compromise. By doing this you’re being considerate and understanding your partner’s needs, which will only strengthen your connection.
Make time for people you’re really interested in:
Only meet up with people you have a true connection with. This is especially true if you have work commitments or family responsibilities. Don’t just date someone because they seem impressive on paper or settle for love.
Ask yourself what you really want in a partner and how this relationship is going to be beneficial to both parties. Sometimes a person will be a match on paper, but your dynamic will lack romantic or sexual chemistry overall.
No one likes creating conflict and rejecting others, but remember you’re the one dating that person. Balanced relationships platonic or romantic can handle adversity; if not then maybe it’s time to explore other options.
Introversion is perfectly normal and can be used to your advantage. A lot of people like the ‘Strong, Silent Type’ and sometimes the “quiet ones” really are the ones to watch. That impression of confidence can be very attractive to people. So, remember to use this as your superpower.
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This was written by Roisin